tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8251108055431837285.post7138880362415674655..comments2010-02-05T10:36:41.929-06:00Comments on IT'S A PERFECT DAY... with Cancer?: Tests, Grades, and Milestones…Rhonda Radliffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11417751335875461670noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8251108055431837285.post-9144242471527432902008-02-06T09:41:00.000-06:002008-02-06T09:41:00.000-06:00Hey RhondaWell I can tell you are feeling better j...Hey Rhonda<BR/>Well I can tell you are feeling better just by your spirited post!<BR/>I compare too.. but I find that the most important ones are what am I doing vs what I want to be doing..ie: was I paitent enough with my daughter? Did I hug my husband enough today? I am trying compassion to replace comparison to others.. it is a whole new mindset that gives me a challenge and a sense of peace and understanding.<BR/><BR/>Keep on the raw green path...I will have more on the wheat grass soon, check back!<BR/>debDebbie Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04596555525095399660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8251108055431837285.post-78171846251179107452008-02-02T21:59:00.000-06:002008-02-02T21:59:00.000-06:00Many years ago, just after arriving in the USA, I ...Many years ago, just after arriving in the USA, I did a river trip down the Tennessee River from Spring City to Florida. It was during the many storms of early 1994 so many of the river bouys, the markers were washed away or dragged out of place. <BR/><BR/>When we found one that was in place and we could figure out where we were, it was wonderful! one day we found out that those bouys were all in the wrong place, and another day we found about 25 of them washed up on the side of the river. It took us all a while to close our mouths again - we had nothing to guide us if they were all there! We could run aground! <BR/><BR/>But the river kept on flowing, the next corner arrived, the next barge passed by as did the next town and marina. And our journey carried on. It took us down that river even if we were scared and lost. And the views along the way were awesomely beautiful..........<BR/><BR/>I think of this often when dealing with my son having leukemia and now sometimes I mentally throw away those bouys and markers and just enjoy the ride..<BR/><BR/>And so we learn to Just Be, one incorrectly placed marker, one road sign, one bouy at a time.<BR/><BR/>I love your writing, Rhonda -thanks so much for sharing.<BR/><BR/>love and light<BR/>Annie<BR/>Steven's mom<BR/>http://livingwithcml.blogspot.comAnnie - Steven's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09686206651106377099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8251108055431837285.post-6788313687295408462008-02-01T07:30:00.000-06:002008-02-01T07:30:00.000-06:00While I do not understand what you are going throu...While I do not understand what you are going through, and would be foolish to even suggest such a thing, I totally relate to the constant comparisons. I do everything you mentioned.... I am always trying to figure out how long it will take to get somewhere and adjusting accordingly during the drive (and often not driving the speed limit to meet my goal), always compared my grades to others (yet I could have always studied more at the time), and now with my own blog and online magazine articles, I am constantly comparing my comments to others. Then comparing the number of visitors to my site to the day before, the number of visitors to each page on my site vs. another. CONSTANT CONSTANT CONSTANT! Discovery helped free me of a lot of that but I guess part of it is in my DNA.<BR/><BR/>As I said, I cannot imagine what you are going through, but I appreciate your heart and spirit during this fight. Thank you for sharing and continue to be vulnerable and let others know what they can do. I am pretty far away and can't really "do much" but I can definitely keep you in my prayers and be here to talk if you need it.<BR/><BR/>Love ya<BR/>Rachel<BR/>http://keeptheway-christianacademy.blogspot.com/Rachel Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02711443001167188505noreply@blogger.com